The feeling of Anger
Do you know, What is Anger?
Yes, I know most of the people give answer like this:
• yes I know anger is nothing but ‘Gussa’😅
• It is a feeling
It is emotion etc…
Actually Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure or hostility.
A strong Emotion you experience when you think someone has done you wrong.
It is a powerful emotion that people feel from time to time when someone or something frustrates or annoys them.
And the most important thing about Anger is
There are three types of Anger which help shape how we react in a situation that makes us angry :
• Passive Aggression
• Open Aggression
• Assertive Aggression
Do you want to know about these types?
Passive-aggressive behaviors are those that involve acting indirectly aggressive rather than directly aggressive. Passive-aggressive people regularly exhibit resistance to requests or demands from family and other individuals often by procrastinating, expressing sullenness, or acting stubborn.
examples of passive-aggressive behavior might include avoiding direct or clear communication, evading problems, fear of intimacy or competition, making excuses, blaming others, obstructionism, playing the victim, feigning compliance with requests, sarcasm, backhanded compliments, and hiding anger.
On the other hand, many people have a tendency to lash out in anger and rage, becoming physically or verbally aggressive and can often times hurt themselves or others. This is called Open Aggression. This comes out in fighting, bullying, blackmailing, accusing, shouting, bickering, sarcasm and criticism. Open aggression comes from a need to be in control. Want a hand with dealing with open aggression? Read ahead about ‘assertive anger’. Sometimes the anger can be taken out on property or even on ourselves – see the section on self-harm.
The healthy way to deal with anger is by being controlled and confident, talking and listening, and open to help in dealing with the situation. This Assertive anger can help relationships to grow. It means thinking before you speak, being confident in how you say it, yet open and flexible to the ‘other side’. It means being patient; not raising your voice; communicating how you are feeling emotionally, and really trying to understand what others are feeling. When you deal with anger assertively, you demonstrate that you are mature and care about your relationships and yourself.
let’s see some biological talks about this feeling are you interested to know?
So, In Biological term
The adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones such as ‘adrenaline’and ‘cortisol’.
👆This is the thing which leads to anger.
Anger trigger the body’s ‘fight or flight’ response and also the other responses like fear, excitement and anxiety.
The constant flood of stress chemicals and associated Metabolic changes increases heart rate ,blood pressure and respiration rate.
The body temperature rises and the skin Perspires.
Apart from this there are many loses for the human body
Some of the short and long term health problems due to anger are the following
• Digestion problems such as abdominal pain
• Increased anxiety
• High blood pressure
• Skin problems such as eczema
• Heart attack
Friends ,frankly this anger is very dangerous thing it hurts not only our body but also our relationship
“anger makes relationship worse like termites spoil the house”
Angry man makes his closest person hurt an because of that the relationship gets spoiled
This spoilers of relationship makes men Alone and this loneliness with frustration makes men away from temper and this things some time gets converted into big step like “committing suicide”.
So ,how we prevent from these things? 🤔
Now let’s see how these losses can be avoided😇
Some way to control our aggression and our relationship:
• First of all taking deep breath, if you are standing at the time of anger so try to sit, if you are sitting so try to be in a position of sleep.
• The next thing to control anger is drinking water in 3 sips (3 ghunt) .
• If you feel Out of control walk away from the situation temporarily until you cool down.
• Try to pinpoint the exact reasons why you feel angry .
• Do something physical, such as going for a run or playing sport.
Talk to someone you trust about how you’re feeling.
As I promise you that I will give some suggestion in the form of thoughts and shayries right.
• “The anger is just like a ball of fire, but if you swallow it, it’s sweeter than honey”
• “Anger begins with madness and ends with regret”
• “The strongest person is he who is able to control his anger”
Now, it’s time to shayries
• Gusse ki aag to har kisi me hoti hi hai janab
Gusse ki aag to har kisi me hoti hi hai janab
Par sulagta wahi hai jo is aag ko pi jaye
Kyunki aag ko pina bacchon ka khel to nahi hai janab
• Gusse me bhi apna aapa khoye bina rehna
Sab kuch seh kar bhi muskurate rehna
Koi aasan kaam nahi hai
Har dam ek hi jesa bane rehna
Jigar chahiye gusse ko sambhal kar apno se pyar se baat karne ki khatir
Warna aasan nahi hai apne aapko bhool kar apne apno ke liye khush rehna